Radical Humility

by Dan on November 4, 2009

This week, I was listening to Dr. Wayne W. Dyer’s, “Secrets of the Power of Intention.”  I’m a big fan of Wayne Dyer, both of his books and speeches.  For the past ten years, whenever he has a new book release, he’s recorded an audio of it in two formats.  You can either get it in traditional “as read by the author” studio edition, or “live lecture” form, in which he discusses the principles to a live audience.  Usually the live lectures have the words “Secrets of…” attached to the title.

I find the live lectures more engaging, so I stick to that format.  On one of the last couple discs of the “Secrets of Power of Intention,” he mentioned a concept that really hit home with me:  Radical Humility.

The idea is to not take credit for anything; nothing whatsoever.  If you win an athletic competition, it’s because you trained hard, and were gifted a suitable body for this endeavor at birth.

If you are very intelligent and sophisticated, you attribute it to your education, as well as the support from your parents in developing a love of learning.

You basically neutralize every thought that would make you superior to anyone else.

Why is this a good idea?  Well, along with what I was saying about the Value Scale, letting go of comparing yourself to other people takes a huge load of pressure off your back.  You don’t have to defend your “title” of being better at X than this person or that person.  You don’t have to make sure you are top of your game at a certain skill, in order to maintain your identity.

You can still achieve, create, and do wonders with your life, but it’s out of joy instead of fear and anxiousness.

To make things clear, radical humility is NOT low self esteem.  Humility and low self esteem are actually very different.  When you meet someone who’s humble, you’re often impressed at this person’s confidence and peace within.  Someone who’s very arrogant however, often has very low self esteem, and is terrified that at any moment, he or she could be reduced to a very low value person.

Dyer also says to “Give credit to anyone and anything but your own ego.”  You can give unlimited credit to other people, as well as credit to the divine source within everyone.  It just can’t be credit to your personality or individuality in any way.

Remember that’s it’s fine to be aware, as well as happy, with your skills and talents.  You don’t have to pretend you’re an average singer if you’re a professional level Broadway star.  You also don’t have to tell others you are so-so at Poker if you just won a regional tournament.  All that is required is for you to not give your self “points” in general for these skills.  You can enjoy them and wear them with gratitude, but not pride.

You’ll find that along with less stress, you’ll also find yourself developing new talents far quicker with an attitude of radical humility.

And of course, whenever someone gives you a compliment, there’s no reason to share your humility.  Just say thank you, and appreciate the moment.

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